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I'm having a shitty day!


I'm having a shitty day! 

Well if you are wondering what I am looking like at the moment and feeling like - Crap is the best word , angry , hurt ,disappointed.I am sitting here still in my Gown with a headache from HELL!  My weekend was ruined by a little boy who I did'nt know  , definitely  NOT my sweet child Mattie!
Its TESTS this week. Last week we had a few moans and groans , but in general , he seemed to study and do what he was told! This weekend - NIGHTMARE! I am not sure if my Boys are overwhelmed ,since coming from a School that didn't do as many  structured tests and exams!
Maybe they just don't know how to Study, should I get a tutor? 
 He had a meltdown!
Eventually after trying - and let me tell you I am the mom who helps summarize their work , buys study guides and tests online -(which are NOT Cheap) , only to walk away feeling deflated and sad! He was not interested , it was like drawing blood from a stone!


Maybe its my fault? Maybe I do too much for my kids? I make sure they have Awesome lunches ,clean and ready uniforms , Sports kit , materials for their Orals...help with Homework to make sure its done and don't miss a sports game (even packing alittle goodie/lunch on these days)!
Does he even appreciate or realize I do these things? 
How does this make me look as a Parent , when I have to go to the Teacher Meetings and my kid is not trying! 
Worst of this is , that he is a Bright little Boy! Makes me so frikkin Angry!
Does he act up in class , does he try , does he work at school? 
I won't lie, its been a long night , I have hardly slept knowing we didn't't finish studying and if he knows enough to pass... I feel like I am taking on the world of a 10 year old , while he seems super chilled like he has got this!
SO I am going to breathe in and out alot this week , I am going to step back as this " let me help you Parent" , and see if maybe its me that needs to let him learn life lessons himself!
Maybe failing alittle will give him a wake up call! 

I know I am not the only mom out there feeling so helpless .All we want is for our kids to thrive and do their best and most of all, know that they are at least TRYING!
One mom phoned me last week beside herself! Basically feeling exactly like I am today ,teary , heartbroken and ANGRY!! Being a Parent sucks sometimes! There really is so much responsibility. BUT if we just give up on our kids , they could end up going either way in life, which is so scary!! 
So moms - remember we are all probably going through this sometime in our lives with our kids - I am praying My eldest and younger one keep their attitude , cause I would not be able to deal with 3 nightmares!! 
So if you pass me on the street or in the mall and I am a million miles away ,puffy sad eyes and look like I have been pulled through a thorn tree backwards - its KIDS , Kids do this ... 

I can only pray tonight  that he realizes I am not doing this for myself , but only so that he can do better and have a great education and maybe get into a High School!!
Moms /Parents .... no words ...just like the phrase I often use ..Just Keep Swimming!
Mel
PS ... So I did'nt send my Newsletter/ #Blog immediately - I fetched kids ... Only to be met by my Adorable , sweet , kind Mattie who came home , showered , ate dinner and studied like a Machine for his Natural Science!!!
SERIOUSLY - my Hairdresser Maureda, Owner of
Mo Klein ,you might be seeing me 3 times a month for washing away the Grey! KIDS 









 
10 Comments so far:
Michelle (The Perfectly Imperfect Mummy) on 18 September 2018
Im sure youre doing a great job Mumma!!. Things always look different when we are tired of having a bad day. The fact that you worry is testament to what a good mum you are.
Jennifer - Libby and Lu on 18 September 2018
I've been there. Kids are little jerks sometimes and they know how to push all your buttons. And they tend to push the buttons of their mother's the most because that's who they feel most comfortable with. You've got this!
Kimberly on 18 September 2018
This is how it was and has been with my oldest! I feel like every day is a battle to get her to care about things as much as I care about them FOR her. The last year has been a lot of me letting go and letting her experience failure and other natural consequences. I finally came to the conclusion that as long as I care about these things more than she does, she will never have to care.

Over the last year shes had a lot of days where she forgot things for school (even though I could have saved her from forgetting) She has had to deal with going to bed early for not managing her time well even though she has the same routine each day. I just tell her how much I love her, and that tomorrow is a new day and she can try again. It's so hard!
Mom in the Six on 19 September 2018
You are definitely not alone! All of us moms have REALLY bad days...thankfully there are REALLY good days to balance out :)
Brittany McCabe on 19 September 2018
I have those days, but then out of nowhere we will have a fantastic day. Those are the ones I try to remember when my days are tough!
Dana on 20 September 2018
I try my damndest to make my kids self-reliant. I do their laundry, of course, but theyre expected to feed/dress/clean up after themselves! Im still going crazy sometimes but it makes life a lot easier!
Myndee on 20 September 2018
Ugh. I get it, mama. I hope putting your feelings out was cathartic. You know you are not alone. Cheers to better days ahead!
Alexis on 21 September 2018
Been there done that mamma!
Daphne' Adams on 21 September 2018
Adulting is hard, parenting is harder but you got this!! Keep doing what you do.
Gail on 21 September 2018
Momming is hard work. Take it easy on yourself and your son. All kids learn at their own pace. Keep on him, but understand his limits. Good luck momma!
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